Why it is important to forgive yourself?

Why it is important to forgive yourself? 

(By Pashmeen Kaur ) 

Image By:- Sukriti Singh

Forgiveness is often defined as to let go a feeling of resentment and anger towards someone that you believe has done something wrong to you. However, you may be kind enough to forgive others but when it comes to an individual to forgive themselves for doing something wrong, we can get harsh on ourselves. “No one is perfect “everyone makes mistake and we should rather learn from those mistakes accept our mistakes and move on from it as it will be good for our mental health and our well being. Self forgiveness is not a sign of weakness it a sign of learning and exploring new things in life. The act of forgiveness whether yourself or others is not suggesting that you are condoning the behaviour it therefore means that you are accepting the behaviour and you accept what happened and moving ahead of the past. It sounds great that we have accept our mistakes and move on with it but in reality, it is tough to practice. We all should how to stand up and fight with our past mistakes so that beautiful present and the future is not destroyed.

Here are 4’R s of self forgiveness 

Accepting responsibility

Forgiving yourself and accepting that whatever happened is past behind you and whatever will happen will be beautiful. Showing compassion to yourself facing the harsh realities in life is the first step towards self forgiveness it is one of the hardest steps. One should not be ashamed of what happened in past nor they should make any excuses instead they should face the reality and accept their responsibility towards family, work and most importantly themselves.

Express remorse 

Sometimes the person makes be surrounded with a feeling of guilt, negativity and one can also feel ashamed of doing something wrong. But we all need to accept that these feeling are “ok” in fact if we feel guilty it is an indication of being a good human being. Sometimes this guilt makes us angry, sad and frustrated all we should know is where to invest this anger and our emotions should be placed rightly not wrongly. Understand that what mistake you have done and that you feel guilty about does not make you a wrong person instead it makes you a better person and changes you for the best.

Gaining the trust and restoring the damage 

Just like forgiving others takes time and once they make it up to us the forgiveness is accomplished similarly, we should not completely forgive ourselves until and unless we make it up to that mistake and gain confidence in ourselves that the mistake will not be repeated. We need to ratify our actions and if we have harmed anyone in the mistake, we should apologise rather than arguing.

Focus on the renewal and the new you 

The fact is that everyone makes mistake and learns from it they feel sorry and regretful for their own actions. Feeling this and working on the mistake that you did in past is good but having the feeling of self hatred, or even pity could be damage self esteem and self respect of an individual. Forgiving yourself requires a plan that is why did you do the mistake? What steps can you take to prevent it later? Why did you act in a certain way? This plan and thoughts should have an answer so that you can make up to the person you hurt and repair yourself in the process.

Benefits of forgiving yourself 

Self love 

One of the most important things that self forgiveness leads to the road self love. Once you will start forgiving yourself you will learn how to correct your behaviour and when to apologise for the same. Self love boosts the confidence and self esteem of a person.

Mental health 

Gifting yourself with the act of self forgiveness can boost your feeling and image about yourself numerous studies have shown that when people practice the art of self forgiveness, they face lower levels of depression and anxiety. Similarly practicing the importance of self compassion can give you success, better productivity and focus.

Physical health

The act of self forgiveness also improves the physical gealth of a person studies have shown that it improves the heart rate of a person, blood circulation and cholesterol level in the body is improved.

CONCLUSION 

Self forgiving is a very important process in everyone’s life everyone needs to understand that they are not perfect. Some people make mistakes and they get extremely guilty for the act that they open doors for drugs, alcohol etc. we should all realise that before anyone we are important to ourselves and answerable to ourselves. Even I have made mistakes in my life but never let if encounter my present and my future. I have learnt that self love, self forgiveness and sharing your thoughts with family and friends can change your mood and open doors for positive attitude in life. 

It is important for you to know that you are not alone there are so many people who are going through the same rough time that you are going through.

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